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Invigorated By The Trials Of Life

Invigorated By The Trials Of Life

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I always find this time of the year quite difficult.

The dark cold mornings when you’re tucked up in bed. The daylight just doesn’t last that long and before you know it the evening is setting in.

The last few weeks have tested my resolve; some difficult things to deal with, illness, tiredness from lack of sleep and “life takes over” stuff.

I’ve failed miserably to keep things going on my blog and it’s taking me ages to write posts and answer comments for which I apologise!

But sometimes life does take over. Life is after all for living not for blogging.

I’ve been so pleased to have the support of many bloggers over the past few weeks and I feel happy that I have become part of a growing community.

This doesn’t sound like the same man who wrote about starting a revolution and maybe I’m not that man at the moment.

Seeing my daughter try to cope with an illness for 6 days, seeing how helpless and vulnerable she is and how much she has grown to depend on me has thrown things a little.

It’s to be expected; she doesn’t want to disappointment me. I’ve become her world. Actually I feel it opened my eyes wider.

Going forward, I really need to be comfortable with the way I blog to get back into it. For about a week, I really didn’t feel like looking at my blog at all.

Apathetic perhaps? Maybe a little. But I’ve decided I should just stop trying so hard. Does it really matter if I don’t make money out of blogging for a long time? Or ever? Not really.

I want to go back to enjoying blogging and not feel like I need to step it up every time I write the next post. I hear that so many times it’s started to annoy me. That’s not what blogging’s really about for me.

Yes, I want to use it as a stepping stone to other things such as designing my own products and ebooks etc. But just keeping my blog up to date is keeping me busy enough to be going on with. I shouldn’t feel pressurised because that ‘killer’ article doesn’t miraculously appear each time I fire up my PC.

A little defeatist? Absolutely not. I certainly wouldn’t turn down any online opportunities that come my way but I need to think practically and realistically. Blogging is after all not my sole purpose in life.

I also need to reconsider how I go about building things on my blog with the tight budget I have. I know it’s important to invest in your business to grow but you also can’t do this blindly.

So, the first thing to go is likely to be AWeber. There’s other cheaper or even free options for adding subscribers and I’ll be researching these in the next few days to put them in place very quickly.

I also need to find alternative ways to make money for my business so I intend to look at doing paid surveys as a starting point.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not stuck for money outside of my business but I don’t want to have to call on that particularly. I’m really not afraid to start again from the beginning and grow from there.

It doesn’t matter how long it takes to get where I want to be as I will have more and more time as my kids get older to move things forward and diversify. In that time I will continuously invest my time in learning new skills online which don’t cost the earth!

Out goes the idea of buying a premium theme for now. I’ve had trouble with the theme I have installed though so that may also need reviewing.

Actually, by putting this down in writing, I feel quite invigorated. Like I have a new purpose and a realistic direction; I’m no longer scrabbling around in the dark.

And I love blog hopping and commenting on other people’s blogs. I love to connect with other people but I stopped doing that for a couple of weeks. I’ve missed it and so that has to be my second priority.

I have to do what is right for me and I’m glad to not be following after the fold. I’m stepping it up in my direction not how I perceive other people think I should.

Hopefully you’ll continue with me on this journey :-).

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  1. Sapna says

    Hi Tim

    Glad to read that you have recovered from your illness and daughter has been your support system.
    I am too young in blogosphere to inspire anyone but I would say enjoy small things in life and look for incremental growth, that way you will be very relaxed and can enjoy life as it comes.Don’t push yourself too hard. Things are bound to take natural course.
    Imp-Starters like me takes inspiration from your posts.Best of my wishes for your health and business.

    ~Sapna

    • says

      Hi Sapna

      I feel relieved that there is only one more week until the holidays and we can take some time to relax!

      I take comfort from your kind words and completely agree that I should focus more on incremental growth.

      My wife has mentioned to me a few times not to be so hard on myself about getting blog posts out there.

      Thank you Sapna and I hope you’re enjoying the weekend.

      Tim

  2. says

    Tim – hats off to you. It takes courage to write a post like that – and it’s great, if painful, to read, because it’s real and reflects what a lot of us go through from time to time.

    I’ve had a heart-in-the-mouth health scare with my husband this weekend, so I know exactly where you’re coming from.

    I’m really sorry you’ve been having such a rough time, but I’m sure a lot of other bloggers, including me, will take heart from this post – when you share stuff like that, it makes other people, who may be struggling with some of those issues themselves, feel less alone.

    Your blog’s great, you write fantastically helpful posts, your Alexa rank’s way ahead of many of us – and, as I can see from the picture at the top of this page, your feet are still on the road – that’s the main thing.

    I hate to argue with you, but I disagree entirely with ALL of paragraph 4 – you have not failed miserably, far from it! We all need a break from time to time – so don’t go beating yourself up.

    Take care, Tim – and prioritise having a rest, getting some sleep and spending time with your family way, way, way over responding to this or any other comment.

    Sue
    Sue Neal recently posted…Why I’m a Content Curation ConvertMy Profile

    • Theodore Nwangene says

      Thanks for your kind words to Tim Sue,

      That’s very good of you. I know majority of us here faces this kind of situation from time to time.
      Enjoy your weekend.

      Theodore

    • says

      Hi Sue

      I just felt like I needed to get out on paper how I was feeling and it was quite therapeutic! It really made me think about what I’m doing and why I’m doing it.

      I’ve read in many posts that you should have a goal as to where you want to take your blog with a structured plan. That’s just not me at the moment. Maybe one day I’ll go down that route but who’s to say how I should do things apart from me? :-)

      I’m sorry to hear about the health scare with your husband. I hope he is okay and that you are both taking it easy the rest of the weekend.

      You’ve very kind Sue and thank you for what you’ve said; I really appreciate it. My feet are still on the road, most definitely.

      I’m looking forward to the Christmas holidays in a week’s time. My kids are so excited about Santa coming.

      Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

      Tim

  3. says

    Hi Tim

    Can relate to your post very well. Glad you are feeling better. I don’t have any kids at home and don’t have a lot of time left in my life. But doing what you have to do and at the speed that keeps you sane is what is important. I have found that I just don’t have the time to do all what I have given myself to do. Maybe I could if I was at optimum energy, brilliance and with a lot more money in my pocket.

    As you say it is not about the money. It will come in time. If we believe we always seem to manage even when things seem a little bleak.

    Love your posts and as always better to have good quality posts than have more with no real substance. Glad you shared because many of us are on the side of where you stand.

    Mary
    Mary Stephenson recently posted…Problem Solving: Did The Cat Eat Your Cake?My Profile

    • says

      Hi Mary

      I love what you say here, “But doing what you have to do and at the speed that keeps you sane is what is important”.

      I’d been giving myself a hard time about not posting as much as I had been and in the scheme of things everything else that was going on in my life was always going to take a priority. Staying sane is always a priority! :-)

      I read so many blog posts about how you should do things and how not to. While I take some of it on board, I also think we need to make our own way in the blogosphere and learn from our mistakes.

      It feels silly now that I felt pressurised into doing things in a certain way.

      I really appreciate your support and kind words Mary.

      Enjoy the rest of the weekend.

      Tim

  4. says

    I know what you mean Tim. I’ve been under the weather the past few days and with this time of the year there is so much to do. You can’t possibly do it all. You have to prioritize. Of course your regular readers will stick around :) Sometimes when we try to hard we are not ourselves and that can show through too. Everyone has their own pace and once we find it – we go with what works best. Great sharing this as many will surely relate to it Tim. Glad you are starting to feel better.
    Lisa recently posted…Tweets And More From The Tweet Seat ShowMy Profile

    • says

      Hi Lisa

      I’m sorry to hear you’ve been under the weather too. I hope you’re feeling better now. I still feel pretty whacked but there’s only a week to go until the Christmas holidays and things should get a little easier.

      I really hope I can find a balance between offline and online. As both you and Mary have mentioned, finding a pace that fits is what I need to do. I actually do feel more focussed and invigorated after writing this post.

      I’ve also been experimenting with Q10, which is a full screen word processor for PC. It certainly has helped on keeping my focus and I’m going to keep using that as I draft my posts to see if it continues to keep things moving.

      I hope you’re having a relaxing weekend Lisa.

      Tim

  5. Theodore Nwangene says

    I’m really with you Tim,
    I was wondering why you’ve not been updating your blog for some time now, but i now understand. How is your lovely daughter? Was she the one that was sick or you? Anyway I’m happy that God has taking control of the situation.

    I always find myself in this type of dilemma from time to time, sometimes, i will just feel like giving up blogging but when i remember that i didn’t start it only to make money and that anything good takes time to mature, i will still hold on to it.

    Just as you commented on my that it seems I’ve made as much money you’ve made blogging, that is the issue brother but its not a criteria for us to quite. I know that it will soon start rewarding us financially with time.

    I quite agree with Sue that you are not a failure, its just that you’ve not succeeded yet. One of my favourite quotes is by Nelson Mandela when he said that THE GREATEST GLORY IN LIFE LIES NOT IN NEVER FAILING, BUT IN RISING EVERY TIME WE FAIL. Therefore lets keep on trying brother.

    Talking about the Autoresponder, i agree with you on that too. I’m using Getresponse, but i’m also thinking on leaving it for now. I’ve conducted some research so far on the best cheap/free ones out there and i was able to find two.

    One is Mailchimp.com and the other is Imnicamail.com. They are both OK as they allow you to have up to 2000 subscribers free but why i prefer the later to the former is that you can make use of all there services free of charge including the email follow-ups, but with mailchimp, you must pay to use their autoresponder. So i think you should check out both of them and see the one that suites you. But if you happen to see another one that is OK, please let me know.

    I’m also looking for other ways to make some dough online too apart from my blog, so if you happen to discover any good one, please don’t hesitate to notify me too.

    Tim, you’re not alone on this, so don’t worry, it will soon be over.

    Thanks and more greeze to your elbows brother.

    Lets succeed together. Enjoy your weekend and my regards to your daughter.

    • says

      Hi Theodore

      You’ve certainly given me some comfort from your kind words and I really appreciate that.

      My daughter has bounced back and is back to her usual self. Thank you for asking. My wife and I also became ill but recovered fairly quickly. Then my son came down with the same thing and is only just now recovering and getting back to normal.

      I love the Nelson Mandela quote. It certainly gives me something to reflect on. Definitely let’s keep on trying!

      I’m still researching the autoresponders at the moment and I’m going to write a post about it once I’ve finished the research. Mailchimp and Imnica are ones that are included and I’ve found a couple of other ones we could try, Mad Mimi and Listwire.

      It’s good to know I’m not alone Theodore. Thanks again.

      Enjoy what’s left of your weekend.

      Tim

      • Theodore Nwangene says

        You’re certainly not alone Tim,
        Don’t worry, it will soon be over. I’m very happy for your survival and that of your family. Happy survival.

        Greet all for me Tim.

        I enjoyed my weekend, though i lost a friend.

        Catch fun.

        Theodore

        • says

          Hi Theodore

          I’m sorry to hear that you lost a friend. I hope you’re okay.

          Thank you for wishing me and my family well.

          Best wishes to you and your family.

          Tim

  6. says

    Tim–

    I could feel your feelings – great post. I myself am going in circles attempting to get my blogging in some kind of state of organization and tend to keep putting the horses before the carts. I’m attempting to keep my original site getyourselffit.com moving forward as I am starting another site! Very little has made too much sense to me for quite a while (not to sound negative) but most recently, I have somehow became a microscopic part of a network of “great bloggers” and the fog is beginnig to lift. I’ve got a long way to go but just wanted you to know that I appreciated getting your e-mail and I’m happy to have been attracted to your blog. Thanks.

    Les
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    • says

      Hi Les

      Welcome to my blog and I really appreciate your comments.

      I’m guilty of trying to run before I can walk at times and I need to consolidate things before I move any further forward I think.

      It sounds as though you’re making some important strides Les if the fog is beginning to lift. I think I’m just entering the mist and won’t even be in the fog for some time! ;-)

      It’s great that you have a network to help and support you. There are many people I have met online through blogging who I find inspirational and that certainly influences how I do things.

      Thank you for being part of my email list. I hope I can keep things interesting enough for you to stay with me!

      Enjoy the rest of your weekend Les and I hope you’ll visit again soon.

      Tim

  7. Andrew says

    Thanks for your honesty in this post, Tim! :)

    There definitely are times when other things can become more important than blogging. All about prioritizing!

    Having a direction is also a must, always. Writing can help me find my way “in the dark” too, a lot of times (which is one of the prime reasons I started blogging in the first place!)

    I always seem to forget how important writing is for me, but as soon as I start writing again, I remember and try to make all sorts of notes and stuff so I wouldn’t forget again (yes, literally!) :)

    For as long as other much more important things come in the way of me and blogging, I’ll always be one of your faithful readers in this awesome journey of ours!

    I hope… no, I’m sure… that the week to come will be so much better for you, Tim! Hear from you soon!

    • says

      Hi Andrew

      I’m very grateful for your comments and for reading and contributing to my blog.

      I really enjoy researching things and writing about them. That’s what attracted me to blogging and gave me something to do if and when I had any spare time.

      Sometimes I forget the reasons why I started blogging and get ahead of myself so writing about my thoughts can usually get me back on track.

      It sounds as though we’re similar in that way about blogging.

      This week is definitely going to be better Andrew, I know it!

      Thank you again.

      Tim

  8. Dadblunders says

    Tim,

    Totally relate to everything you said. I love to write and blog and understand that our blogs are just a partial reflection on our lives. In my opinion, our lives are so much more that just blogging (whether someone is making tons of money on it or none at all). If we don’t take the time to experience life it will pass us by. If I stop participating in life I would have nothing to write about. Being a dad blogger I don’t and can’t miss the opportunity to watch my son grow up either.

    I know that I have been having a rough couple of months trying to get everything done that i would like to accomplish and always seeming to fall short of it. Surgery, a sick son, the holidays and just the other day my laptop stopped working all have contributed to the pressure I place on myself. Truly, does it really matter? I would like to do more and have my voice heard but at the same time if I over pressure myself I am defeating the purpose of why I started my blog. I started it originally for my son and to possibly help a few people along the way.

    After reading your post I think you and I should get together and blog about things….lol

    You have written a great post that is inspiring to others. It is something that many people don’t want to talk about (the demands placed on yourself for blogging). I actually had been thinking about writing something discussing it (who knows I still might)!

    Aaron

    P.S. I am glad to hear your daughter is feeling better. It always makes a dad happy to know their children are well again.

    • says

      Hi Aaron

      I know you’ve had a difficult few months as well, so I really appreciate your comments.

      Life is definitely more important than blogging and sometimes I need to take a step back and remember that. Putting pressure on myself to write a post or generate an income from my blog was getting me very frustrated. But in the scheme of things, it doesn’t matter at all.

      You have helped me put some perspective on things Aaron so I’m very grateful for that and yes, we should get together and blog about things! :-)

      Thank you for your kind words Aaron and I’d be interested to see a post from you on the demand placed on yourself from blogging too. We can compare notes.

      I’m certainly relieved that my daughter has bounced back to good health and is currently at this moment asking me for ice cream.

      Thanks again.

      Tim

  9. says

    It sounds as though you’ve had a few rough weeks. I hope your daughter is on her way back to health.

    It also seems that you’ve gained some perspective on things, which is never a bad thing.

    If you’re looking at other e-letter services, I use MailChimp. The only problem is no autoresponders with free accounts, but I just make sure to check on my subscriber list regularly. I think you can wait on the theme, too, unless it’s proving to be particularly frustrating. Some things have to be put on hold until you have the resources to address them.
    Erin Feldman recently posted…Work is not a Four-Letter WordMy Profile

    • says

      Hi Erin

      Thank you for wishing my daughter well. She’s recovered fully now thank you.

      The whole family came down with a gastric bug with my son being the final victim but he’s also back to good health too.

      I’ve had a look at a few email marketing services over the past few days, including MailChimp. I’m going to write about my findings in my next post I think.

      For some reason, the WordPress theme I’m using kept reverting back to its default settings every few days but that seems to have settled down since I removed the W3 Total Cache plugin. I’m glad of that and it means I can put that on hold until there are more resources available.

      I hope you’re having a great start to the week Erin and thank you for your comments.

      Tim

  10. says

    Tim,

    I just found your blog through Adrienne’s site. You are very sincere with your writing. I am impressed with the ease of your writing. You carry strong values and you will recover fully from illness and business problems. Blessings to you and your daughter. Enjoy your day!
    Margarita recently posted…Powerful Mind Tools: AfformationsMy Profile

    • says

      Hi Margarita

      Welcome to my blog. I’m really pleased to meet you and glad that you found me via Adrienne’s site.

      We’re all fully recovered now from the gastric virus we had, although now I’ve got a cold. It’s nice to be wrapped up warm and cosy in my house right now!

      I really appreciate your visit and comments and I hope to see you again sometime soon.

      Have a great week!

      Tim

    • says

      Hey Josh

      You’re completely right I know about focussing on other things than the blog.

      It was strange; I felt really guilty that I wasn’t posting very often or answering comments very quickly. But, at the end of the day, what’s more important? A blog or my life? Not a difficult one to answer I know but sometimes I put too much pressure on myself to get things done.

      I’ve definitely been working hard to build relationships as that’s one of the things I really enjoy and also one of the things that I miss when I don’t blog. It sounds a little sad but when I’m here at home with my daughter there’s not many opportunities to be social offline so online was my way of keeping up with people.

      Anyway, my daughter’s gone for a nap now so I can get on with some blogging!

      I hope you’re well and are enjoying the week so far Josh.

      Tim

  11. says

    This is what we all enjoy reading Tim. Not that your poor daughter has been so ill lately and that you’ve had to care for her and that’s taken time away from your business.

    No, it’s the being real part where the rest of us can definitely relate. You have to decide for yourself what you want to accomplish online and how you can fit that into your busy schedule. I for one do know that family comes first no matter what. Oh sure, we all need to make money in order to support ourselves but even that takes a back seat to your family.

    Personally, I so have enjoyed your posts recently. I can tell how much you’ve evolved and all of use would hate to see you vanish. But whenever you do have time to share with us some really helpful information or teach us about life, we’ll be here. You’ve built us a great fan base Tim and we’re here to support you.

    Thank you for opening up and sharing this with us and I do hope that your daughter and you are doing much better now. It’s not fun to be sick or without sleep. Not fun at all.

    So here is to a really great week Tim. I’ll be thinking about you.

    ~Adrienne
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    • says

      Hi Adrienne

      I really appreciate your well wishes and am happy to say that we’ve all made a full recovery.

      I’m definitely not going to vanish Adrienne as I really enjoy blogging, getting to know lots of people, and building up friendships.

      I’m very pleased you have enjoyed my posts. In fact, that has made my day! I appreciate your support very much and everyone that I’m getting to know online.

      You’re right though, family has to come first. I took a step back recently and decided that I can only concentrate on my blog at this time. Forget anything else that I wanted to do beyond my blog. I hope one day I can pick those things up again but for now they will have to wait.

      It’s not that I even need to make any money from blogging but it would be nice one day to take it more seriously as a business. That will come though I’m sure.

      One of the things I’ve tried to do over the past few months is be ‘real’ and share things about my life in some way. This post was really a way for me to get things down on paper and then move on.

      I know it’s going to be a great week. For both of us.

      Thank you for thinking about me Adrienne!

      Tim

  12. says

    Hey Tim, I truly enjoyed your article and thank you for taking the time to visit my blog in times like these.

    To me, blogging has many different meanings and I’m really turned off when people preach what a blog should be like because the possibilities are endless.

    The same goes for any marketing blog (a place designed to make money), there’s no carved in stone type of steps for this to happen, you can be earning money in many different ways or not earn anything at all, again the possibilities are limitless.

    I would never end describing what blogging or what wordpress means to me, not because I’m in love with either one but because I actually I’m obsessed with computers and how computers work.

    WordPress and its blogging side are just a tiny bit of the whole equation in my computing world but the longer I work with wordpress, the more articles I write and the more people I keep meeting through these platforms it’s just unbelievable amazing!

    I understand your posture about minimizing expenses, there’s a lot of computing “fat” I could trim from my own marketing efforts but at this point it’s just easier for me to focus on delivering goods and optimizing my marketing expenses later.

    For your actual concerns with your current theme, Pagelines is supposed to be a very robust theme, WooThemes has very nice free themes, the only catch is you have to create an account with them but it’s free as well.

    For e-mail marketing, MailChimp is free, you can’t send affiliate links in your broadcasts but it’s okay if you send your visitors to a review or an article (that you own) which contains aff links.

    The only major drawback is that you can’t control at what time is the broadcast going to be sent and they will charge you money at some point too (I think it’s based in number of subscribers).

    Anyway, I wish you all the best Tim and this is a very smart article, define what you want out of blogging and pursue that, if I could give a recommendation it would be to monetize your strengths and focus on getting people to achieve results, not on possible income because that will flaw your marketing efforts.

    Cheers man and hope you’re pumped by letting it all out, take care!

    Sergio
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    • says

      Hey Sergio

      Thank you for your comments, they have really helped me put things into perspective, as has blogging about things.

      I love that you are obsessed by computers. I really enjoy them, although I wish I knew more about them. I remember thinking when I saw the video of your appartment, wow Sergio’s got some serious computer equipment there!

      In terms of blogging, I think I had become demoralised by the number of articles I had seen about writing killer articles, stepping things up, getting your brand out there, etc etc. You’re right, there’s no carved in stone way of doing things and I should just go with the way I want to do things. Hey, it might even work one of these days! :-)

      I do know that I need to diversify my efforts at some point but that really can wait. It’s not like I’m desperate to be the next big thing or like I need to make money from this. It would be nice to at some point though!

      I’m actually using the free version of Pagelines at the moment and it really is very good. The problem is, it keeps on reverting back to the default settings and that’s not good. It does seem to have settled down since I got rid of the W3 Total Cache plugin. That seemed to be causing problems with CommentLuv as well, so I’m glad I hopefully sorted out two problems in one.

      I’ve been having a look at a few free email marketing companies over the past few days and I’m going to write about it in my next post I think. MailChimp’s included in that.

      That’s very sound advice about monetizing my strengths, Sergio, and focussing on getting people to achieve results. I really need to think about how I do that going forward. For now, I just want to be able to keep my blog as up to date as I can, get around and meet other bloggers and I’m sure I can expand the scope of things some time in the future.

      I’m definitely pumped by letting it all out mate!

      Thank you for some really helpful comments Sergio and I appreciate the time you’ve taken to come over and comment.

      Have a great week now.

      Tim

  13. says

    Hi Tim,

    I greatly appreciate your vulnerability. I can also appreciate that you have built an incredibly supportive and loyal community here, which you can’t put a price on!

    When I started blogging on my own personal blog, I constantly asked why. If I’m not generating passive income and the practice of blogging just takes up so much time, what’s the point? However I quickly saw how much I had grown by writing. Not only was I becoming a stronger writer but I was also more willing to open up, hear advice, and provide advice for others. And again, for me this was priceless.

    At Clarity for the Boss, we are currently in the process of building an affiliate program. Once we have everything completed, I would be happy to discuss the opportunity to partner and for you to generate some passive income which would provide you an opportunity to work on your business and start some new initiatives. It’s a strong program and you clearly have a loyal following.

    Let me know if you’re interested in learning more :)

    • says

      Hi Geoff

      I think you’ve hit the nail on the head there. While blogging can take up a lot of time, it certainly helps to improve writing skills.

      It’s interesting to hear your experience of personal blogging as well. That’s how I felt when I wrote this post but I am truly grateful for the community I’m continuing to build here. It’s one of the things which keep me and the blog going.

      I would be interested in the Clarity for the Boss affiliate program and would definitely be interested in learning more.

      Thanks for coming over Geoff and I hope to see you again soon.

      Tim

      • says

        Hi Tim,

        I’m sure you and I are not the only one’s out there contemplating the intrinsic value of a blog but I’m glad to hear you have taken something from blogging. Your site is great and I have made visiting here part of my routine.

        As far as the Clarity for the Boss Affiliate Program, we’re currently beta testing but I can get you some information at the beginning of January. It’s an incredibly strong program and I know you will be as excited about it as I am!

        We will certainly be in touch and thanks again for a great post!

        • says

          Hi Geoff

          Thank you for your kind words and I look forward to hearing about the Clarity for the Boss Affiliate Program in the new year.

          I really appreciate that you have made visiting my blog part of your routine. You’ve made my day!

          Enjoy the weekend Geoff. Are you all set for Christmas?

          Tim

  14. says

    Hi Tim
    I am sure that you feel much better for writing this post, it does us all good to get things off our chest now and again.
    I was sorry to hear that your daughter has been ill, I do hope she is fully recovered now, it must have been very worrying for you all.
    I lost my way back in the summer with my business but with lots of support from my fellow bloggers I am back on track, it’s not always easy doing this especially when “life” gets in the way but hey our family are more important in my book and must come first.
    I agree that this time of year is always difficult but you seem to have turned a corner with this post, you have lots of other bloggers that are here to help you if you need it :)
    As for autoresponders there are some free ones you could look into for the time being like iContact ot Listwire.

    Have a great day Tim
    Pauline
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    • says

      Hi Pauline

      I do feel much better for writing the post. It gave me some clarity and to see what I really need to do going forward; at least for the foreseeable future.

      My daughter is now fully recovered. Thank you for asking. She was throwing up for 6 days in a row and we were becoming very concerned. We all then got the same bug!

      I remember not seeing you around for a lot of the summer and wondered what you were up to. You’re spot on though, family must come first and I know you were very busy during the summer months in any case.

      I’ve got a cold at the moment and am feeling a little under the weather. I’m much clearer in my mind what I want to do going forward though and I’m going to write about free email markerting in my next post. Thank you for letting me know about iContact and Listwire.

      Enjoy the rest of the week Pauline.

      Tim

    • says

      Hi Justin

      Welcome to my blog. It’s great to see you here.

      I couldn’t agree more. With me looking after the kids, it’s great that I have no set schedule. And when things offline require my attention then I can go ahead and deal with them.

      I think what concerns me sometimes is that the general advice is to keep a regular schedule for publishing your posts. That’s not always going to be possible for me but I try and post at least once a week. Only time will tell if that’s going affect traffic to my blog.

      Thank you for taking the time to comment Justin. I really appreciate it.

      Tim

  15. says

    Posting schedule is not as important as backlinking and SEO. I comment on blogs, write guest posts (occasionally) and implement an SEO strategy for my blog. Once a week is fine as long as the post provides real value to your readers.

    I just switched my SEO plugin from All in One SEO to Yoast’s WordPress SEO plugin. We have got to let the search engines do some of the work for us too.

    Take Care.
    Justin recently posted…What Kind of Thoughts Are You ThinkingMy Profile

  16. says

    Hi Tim,

    Blogging is supposed to be fun, but even with all the fun sometimes it feels like a chore. Trust me, as someone who’s been blogging for years I love it, but every once in awhile I’m just not in the mood. Lucky for me I often write multiple posts ahead of time to help me get through those other times when I don’t care, but at other times I just go with the flow and try to stick to my own program for content.

    As for making money… if it’s not your primary way of making money then don’t fret it. Most people think there’s only one way of making money blogging but there are other ways and all of them don’t involve killing yourself with new content all the time. Just relax, do your own thing, take care of personal business, and it’ll all work out as it’s supposed to.

    Enjoy the holiday.
    Mitch Mitchell recently posted…Better Blogging, Part OneMy Profile

    • says

      Hey Mitch

      Thank you. That’s really helpful. I often feel pressure to do things in a certain way but you’re right I just need to relax and do things the way I want to do them.

      You don’t know how much your words have helped actually. I did not feel very motivated at the time I wrote this post and while things have improved in that regard it’s great to hear your thoughts on blogging.

      Blogging isn’t my primary way of making money, maybe one day it might be, but until then I’ll just keep blogging along and see what happens.

      Who knows what the future holds. There are other things I’d like to do around my blog and maybe 2013 is the year for those.

      I wish you a very happy Christmas Mitch and enjoy the holiday too!

      Tim

  17. says

    Hi Tim,
    I understand what you mean by the difficulties of going through this time of the year. The lack of sunlight kills my productivity. Getting out of warm bed on cold dark mornings is even harder than ever))
    However, I could not agree with you more that life is for living, not for blogging, or working, or commenting. We should enjoy what we are doing. And I really enjoy reading what you write.

    • says

      Thanks kind of you to say Jack.

      I really enjoy writing and they say you get better the more you write so I need to keep doing more of it! Although life is surely for living so there is a balance to be upheld too.

      It’s not quite 9 am here this morning and it’s still pretty dark and grey outside. I had both of my children at home today so it’s time to go and see what they’re up to, I think.

      Enjoy the rest of your week and thank you for your comments Jack.

      Tim

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