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Positive Change Is Just A Moment Away

Positive change is just a moment awayI’d been waiting in nervous anticipation all week for snow.

We’d not had any so far this winter and I was excited like a little kid at the prospect!

I wasn’t the only one though. My kids were really hoping they’d wake up in the morning and we’d have a blanket of snow everywhere.

We weren’t disappointed. Opening the blinds in the morning, revealed a white patchwork of snow all around us.

From my favourite view out of the kitchen window, the hills across the Firth of Forth were covered in a frosting of the white stuff.

Now too much snow fell here but it was just deep enough for my kids to go out and play in it.

That’s them in the picture. My son’s in the distance getting a snowball ready to throw at me!

We spent most of the morning, running around playing in the snow and making a snowman.

The snow didn’t last long though. It’s already gone now.

It’s funny how something like snow lying on the ground can make us think differently and go about things in a different way.

Suddenly everything becomes a priority and it can all end in a panic.

Our usual routine goes completely out of the window and we need to adapt.

It’s at times like these when we have disruption that we can’t plan things so well.

There’s a feeling of uncertainty and no-one really likes the unknown, do they?

But this also could be the catalyst for new possibilities.

It could be the time to set in motion events we want to take place, projects we’ve meant to start and relationships we keep meaning to give attention to.

Think of it as a promise for something different and a time when we can choose an alternative path.

Whether the disruption to our daily life is welcome or not really doesn’t matter. We have the chance to make a positive change.

All you need to do now is recognise the potential you have for change, choose your path, take a deep breath and act!

It was under similar circumstances that my wife and I decided that I should give up my career to look after the kids.

We’d previously considered it when my son was born but I was talked out of it by my employer.

When my daughter was born, we couldn’t ignore the fact that the kids would be in childcare for long periods of time while we were both at work.

Once we’d made the decision, I really had to take a leap of faith and go for it. Into the unknown!

I know, as a family, we are really lucky that we are in a position to be able to do this and I’m thankful for it every day.

So now I’d like to ask you a question.

What are you going to do to make a positive change in your life today?

Please let me know in the comments section below.

Tim Bonner

Tim Bonner is a Stay At Home Dad, Blogger and Internet Marketer. Learn more about him here.
  • Sapna

    HI Tim

    You have mentioned in one of your previous posts about the view from your kitchen window and I was looking forward to that.
    Coming on to your post, I think when I left the job for my daughter in 2011, that was for me the very biggest decision of my life and very positive for my daughter, and then Freelancing was something which was unknown territory for me and after that blogging followed in Oct 2012, same unknown.
    Now I need to improve on daily basis that is going to be the biggest change for me.

    Thanks for the great share.
    Happy weekend.

    Sapna

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Sapna

      I keep meaning to take a photo of the view from my kitchen window. I’m not sure how it would come out as I don’t have a very powerful zoom lens though.

      It’s really windy here today and the weather’s not that great in general so I’ll wait until another time I think!

      You’ve made some big decisions I can see Sapna and you’ve acted at every stage and all of the changes you’ve made are positive.

      I agree. Giving up work is a very big decision, isn’t it? There’s no guarantee that we’ll make anything out of being online.

      Improving on a daily basis though is a great challenge to have. I’m sure you’ll do well :-). I’m trying for small baby steps.

      I hope you’ve had a great weekend Sapna.

      Tim

  • dadblunders

    Howdy Tim,

    I have made so many changes in my life that all go towards the positive. As you are aware (since I know you read my blog) I try to stay focused on the positive as much as possible and we all know how hard that can be at times. I think what helps me the most is always remembering that things are only temporary and they could always be worse. It keeps me living in the moment and not trying to rush things or skip over them. After all, this is the only chance we get to do it right so I might as we sit back and enjoy the ride!

    Aaron Brinker

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hey Aaron

      I can tell you are a very positive person from getting to know you and you’ve made some similar changes to your life as me.

      That’s why it’s good to know you.

      It can be really hard to focus on the positive and sometimes I am inclined not to as I’m sure most people are at times.

      But I really like your philosophy on life Aaron and I should do more living in the moment from now on.

      Thanks for some great comments Aaron.

      Have a great week.

      Tim

  • http://www.mayura4ever.com Mayura

    Hi Tim,

    The uncertainity is always around us and that’s we who can make it and take it as a positive or negative change, no? :)

    Currently I’m running through with uncertainity and risk in my hand as I’m taking the home-based online business as a freelancer instead of going to a day job out there mate :) We always need to work on what we need to do and FOCUS is much more improtant in that case. As you quit the job to have a better family life, I’m thinking of spending more time with my family in future too.

    But things never easy as we expect and again need to thorugh with the patience and determination :) Obviously the faith in our action plans matters.

    Have faith mate :)

    Cheers…

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Mayura

      I definitely have faith in what I’m doing now mate.

      I’m not sure I would have said that when I was still in a day job though.

      You seem like you have lots of focus and determination Mayura and I’m sure you will make your online business a real success.

      I’m glad I’m able to join you along the way and see you fulfil your action plan!

      Have a great week Mayura.

      Tim

  • Les Wallack

    Tim,

    Thanks for the inspiration when I most needed it! Loved your post! My attitude this morning has not been the best. There seemed to be an abundance of computer problems, too many e-mails to sort through and the list goes on. As you said; “choose your path, take a deep breath and act!” This is exactly what I will do and make the best of the rest of my day!

    Thanks,
    Les

    Read more: http://tim-bonner.com/positive-change/#ixzz2J61ONow9

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Les

      Great to see you and I’m glad my post gave you a little inspiration for your day!

      I hope it made a difference and you got things done :-).

      Have a great week.

      Tim

  • http://inspiretothrive.com Lisa

    Tim, I love this post. I need some snow now to have me walk away from this computer. Just updated newest version of WP and a plug-in causing issues. I could sure use that time away now and will once I’m finished up.
    It’s amazing how you were able to choose your path so well Tim. Gives me more to think about :)

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Lisa

      I miss the snow already. It’s gone and now we’ve got wet and windy weather.

      I’ve just been out for a walk with my daughter and it feels like we’ve walked for miles. That’s probably because I carried her back most of the way :-)!

      Those pesky plugins are always causing one problem or another, aren’t they? Did you get it sorted out? I’ve updated to the newest version but I’m always nervous of doing it in case anything goes wrong!

      I hope you took some time away from your computer Lisa and relaxed!

      It’s amazing how easy it was for me to choose the path I did in the end, Lisa. Things just presented themselves to me.

      The way I see it, most things tend to work themselves out in the end. Even if at the time, they seem the most difficult things you’ve ever encountered.

      Have a great week Lisa.

      Tim

  • http://necessityofchange.com Mary Stephenson

    Hi Tim

    What am I going to do? I have been thinking about that for days now and still I am staring at the screen. Decided to call my brother this afternoon, it was a nice escape. I think I just maybe in a slump with a ton of stuff that I need to do. Made a fresh lemon meringue pie earlier and thought that would help, it was good for the eating, but still no help.

    I guess there are just days like that. I had been going pretty strong for about 4 weeks, may just need to accept the break. The positive part I will be back on my classes that I am taking, but alas no post unless something transpires in the middle of the night. The thoughts are there but just can’t put it all together. May just need to take another direction until I can collect the info I need.

    When the direction you are pointed in is not necessarily where you should be heading it kind of throws all plans out the window. Don’t have any snow to play in, but maybe I just need to have some really good fun, so I can come back with some revitalized brain cells!

    Enjoyed your post and glad you all got to enjoy the snow.

    Mary

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Mary

      Sometimes a break from doing what you’re doing is all that you need to feel rejuvenated, don’t you find?

      At the same time, routine can also be a good thing. You may find things fall back into place much more easily once you start your classes again.

      Your lemon meringue pie sounds heavenly! I haven’t had a slice of pie in ages and it’s making my mouth water.

      It was my son’s fifth birthday over the weekend and I’ve eaten far too many sweet things and birthday cake though.

      I hope you get back on track Mary.

      Let’s both have a great week :-).

      Tim

  • http://joshuawilner.com/ Josh

    Hi Tim,

    I made the decision to make some big changes and am actively working on turning those from ideas into action. New opportunities bring new perspectives.

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hey Josh

      Now you soon like a man with a plan and the key words here, I think, are actively and action.

      Often the best way to bring new opportunities your way is to go out and get them.

      And I know you’re a very determined man so I’m sure they will present themselves without much work.

      Have a great week Josh.

      Tim

  • http://writeclever.com/ Sue Neal

    You just had to get that snow in there, didn’t you Tim?! We finally did get a little bit this week – just enough for the dogs to have a bit of a romp, but it only lasted 24 hours :(

    You’re right about disruptions having the capacity to generate change – and I think it’s up to us whether we use those upheavals positively or not. I have one of the biggest changes in my life coming up in a few weeks’ time, when I retire from my day job of over 30 years and start working online full time. I’ve always been an ‘employee’ and the prospect of trying to build up my own business involves a major change in my ‘public sector worker’ mindset, but I’m genuinely excited at the possibilities ahead of me.

    However, I’m also constantly working on the little things, the small changes that will make a difference to my happiness and success. You ask what positive change I’m going to make in my life today – well, here goes – I am finally going to stick to my planned schedule of working for a maximum of 50 minutes online at a time interspersed with 10 minute breaks – I’m going to set my timer and I will NOT ignore it when it goes off (if it buzzes when I’m in the middle of something, I tend to think ‘I’ll just finish this bit….’ and an hour later I’m still going strong!)

    And I’m going to be in bed by 10.30 this evening – I’ve been staying up much too late working online and I know sleep deprivation’s no good for my health or my productivity.

    Both of those changes involve prioritising my unrealistically lengthy ‘do’ list for the day and just coming to terms with the fact that I can’t do everything!

    Thanks, Tim – a great post – thought-provoking, as ever,

    Sue

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Sue

      That sure is going to be a huge change for you when you leave somewhere you’ve been working for over 30 years.

      You have the right mindset though Sue. I can tell you’re determined and disciplined, so you’ll make your own possibilities happen.

      I meant to put my Pomodoro timer on before I started responding to comments and then totally forgot. I’ll finish responding and then do it, I guess.

      It makes sense to take a break and just get away from the screen. It’s good to refocus your eyes away from the screen and to also help refocus your mind.

      I’ve had less sleep than I’d like for a while now and I know it’s not helping my productivity.

      There’s 2 weeks until half term, so I’ll have to catch up on some more sleep then!

      You definitely can’t do everything and I’ve learnt that lesson very much just recently.

      It’s meant that I’ve slowed down the momentum with what I’m doing online and concentrating on the stay at home dad side. Get my priorities straight!

      It was my son’s fifth birthday over the weekend. So I’ve done very little online and it feels like I’ve had a good break.

      My daughter’s having a nap, so I’ve got a few minutes to catch up with a few things online before she wakes up again.

      Have a great week Sue and thank you for your kind words.

      Tim

  • http://pauline-bennett.com/ Pauline

    Hi Tim
    I hope your children enjoyed their time in the snow, loved the photo!
    My husband and I made a positive change in our lives 4 years ago (as you know) when we left the UK to live on a Greek Island, after we had decided to make the move we had a little panic! we both left our full time jobs to come to live here with no proper job prospects, we wanted to work from home and have a more relaxing lifestyle.
    It is working but I had to have a summer job as well to help pay the bills but now for this year I am making the positive move forward to stay at home and earn enough online to give up this summer job, I enjoyed meeting the tourists but the hours were long so my blog etc suffered which was not good.
    Thanks for sharing, have a great week!
    Pauline

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Pauline

      That sounds like a fantastic change to your lives. I wish I were so adventurous!

      And I’m sure it’s going to work well for you with a positive move forward towards working from home all year. I wish you lots of luck with it.

      I’m in the privileged position that if I gave up my blog and stopped doing things online it wouldn’t really make any difference to our lives.

      At the same time, that’s less of an incentive to make anything out of it too.

      I hope the sun’s shining today in Greece Pauline. It’s very dull and grey here in Scotland :-(.

      Tim

  • http://www.writerightwords.com Erin Feldman

    For me, it comes down to asking people – asking to meet, asking to talk about their companies, asking about how my company could work with theirs. It’s a big step for me. I’m not usually such a forward person. ;)

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      It sounds as though you’re on the right track with it Erin.

      I love the way you write and I’m sorry I’ve not stopped by in a while. You always seem so confident; not forward but someone who knows their mind and who can express themselves well.

      Still, that’s a big step forward if you do go to those meetings. I’m sure the first one or two are always the worst. I wish you all the luck with it!

      I’ve slowed down on everything I do online. It was getting too much with looking after the kids. I will make sure I stop by this week though.

      Great to see you again Erin.

      Tim

      • http://www.writerightwords.com Erin Feldman

        I think you’re doing just fine with your online activities. Your family takes precedence.

        Thank you for saying you think I’m confident. I guess I come across that way in my writing. I’m not as good with the speaking part of it, but I’m working on it.

        • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

          Hey Erin

          Thanks for saying that! My family definitely need to come first.

          I’m sure you’ll do fine with the speaking part :-)

  • Khaja Moin

    I`d say that positive impact in my life is favoring other people, this boosts my confidence levels. And help me to do those which I normally don`t.
    Starting my day with a good deed is what changes my day. Like wise to ruin my day one bad deed is enough.
    Well, it all depends on people`s mentality.

    ~@Khajamoin1

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      That’s a great way to look at things Khaja; start your day positively and hopefully it will continue that way.

      I love that the first thing you do every day is try and help someone. I must strive to do that myself and bring a positive change to someone else’s life.

  • Theodore Nwangene

    Hi Tim,
    Its been a long time, i haven’t been seeing you around. Hope all is well.

    Regards your question, i will give it a simple answer….. What i need to do to make a possitive change in my life is simply to change the way i think and start thinking big.

    Thanks for shaing.

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Theodore

      I know. I’m sorry I’ve not been over to say hello for a couple of weeks.

      I’ve been busy looking after the kids and general family stuff.

      I’ve also been concentrating on trying to get some posts drafted on this blog and my other one.

      I’ll definitely be over this week and I love that you’re thinking big.

      I’m sure you’ll go a long way Theodore.

  • http://custom-writing.org/blog/author/jane Jack Milgram

    Hi Tim,
    I couldn’t agree with you more that our life is all about choices. We should always remember about our priorities and initial goals. You are a courageous man. To make a conscious decision and to step into the Unknown was a serious step. I am certain that your kids will highly appreciate what you are doing for them when they grow up.

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Thank you for saying that Jack. You made my day.

      I’m not sure it was particularly courageous. It just felt like the right thing to do for the kids.

      I think it has certainly benefited the kids already. My son is much happier at nursery (kindergarten) and my daughter is a very confident and happy child.

      Thank you for your kind comments Jack. They mean a lot.

      Have a great week.

      Tim

  • http://adriennesmith.net/ Adrienne

    Okay Tim, one day you’re going to share that view from your kitchen window with us. Now seeing the kids enjoying the snow is a fun one too and it looks so pretty. When we finally do see snow it barely stays long enough to even take a picture because it melts just as fast.

    I get excited about change now because I know that for the most part it’s a good thing.

    I’ve told you this before but I admire you for doing what you’re doing because a lot of men would be too proud to let their wives bring home the money. When you get married and have a family I think it’s pretty darn equal so it’s nothing to be ashamed of at all. I bet your kids love you spending time with them and I know that you do enjoy them as well.

    Here is to making this a fabulous year for us all.

    ~Adrienne

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hey Adrienne

      The weather’s been so lousy just lately after the snow disappeared but I’ll be sure to get a picture of that view taken for a future post, I promise :-).

      Change can be exciting can’t it? Sometimes it makes me nervous but for the most part I enjoy the challenge of something new.

      Thank you so much for your kind words Adrienne, once again! My kids have really benefited from me being at home.

      It’s a team effort with my wife though. She’s not only bringing home the money but it’s also allowing us to give our kids a private education and live mortgage, rent and bill free whilst we live on campus.

      I couldn’t agree more that we should make this the most fabulous year ever!

      Enjoy what’s left of the week.

      Tim

  • http://www.lifeforinstance.com Lori Gosselin

    Hi Tim,
    I always love the day of the first snowfall! It was especially fun, when the kids where small and school was cancelled for a snowstorm!
    What am I going to do to make a positive change in my life today? I’m working on it but first I’ve got to get over the flu!
    Nice to find your place!
    Lori

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Lori

      Welcome to my blog. It’s great to meet you.

      My kids loved the snow. It was the first time my daughter had really experienced it and she was fascinated.

      I hope you’re now well on the way to recovering from the flu now. That would definitely be a positive for the week :-).

      Thank you so much for your comments and I hope you’ll stop by again soon Lori.

      Tim

  • http://www.imjustsharing.com Mitch Mitchell

    First, we probably need to get you to central New York so you can experience snow without worry. We get anything less than 6 inches we don’t even blink. lol

    Second, I’ve had this up for a couple of days and I’m just getting my shot at it. I think that every day I’m doing something positive in some fashion, whether it’s on Facebook by sharing motivational messages, writing blog posts, writing a newsletter, or sharing what I can on Twitter. Every once in awhile I get to help by phone. And today I got to act in my capacity of a board member & head of the finance committee for an organization that works with disabled people.

    Of course, your main question was what positive change was I going to make for myself. I haven’t had dessert in 3 days and lost some weight; that’s about as positive as I can get for now because tomorrow… all bets are off! :-)

    Yeah, I was positive all over, and keep trying to be. :-)

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hey Mitch

      My brother-in-law lives in New York but we’ve not managed to get over there yet. One day I’m sure we’ll get to see snow in New York!

      I like that you’re not only making positive changes for yourself but for everyone around you as well. I commend you for doing that.

      I try my best to help as much as I can on and offline but I can’t always do as much for people as I’d like to.

      I’m still carrying some extra weight after the Christmas period so I need to get back to being more healthy and keep away from those desserts too!

      Thanks for your positive message Mitch. You’ve made me feel inspired today!

      Have a great weekend.

      Tim

  • http://beingchirpy.com Aditya

    Tim,

    Glad that you and your kids could enjoy some beautiful white snow. I’m very happy to read that you’re looking for positivity in whatever comes to you, I too tread on the same idea, Positivity!

    A lot has been happening to me since the new year and I’m just learning way too much every single day :P I’ve written all about it on my blog and the best part is I’m just snubbing the negativity of it and looking only for positivity.

    Anyway you’ve made the right decision and look where you stand now, as happy as you can be, spending time with your kids an wife and I guess you couldn’t ask for more.

    Thanks for sharing Ivan’s blog post, I’ll be sure to read it.

    Aditya

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hey Aditya

      You sound like you’re making some really positive changes in your life and it’s really great that you’re learning so much!

      Positivity is the thing that keeps us all happy and I’m glad you’re snubbing any negativity.

      I definitely made the right decision to stay at home with the kids. I know they’re thriving from it.

      I guess the uncertainty for me lies in the future when they go to school. If my online business isn’t up to much by then, then I’ll have to take another new path myself!

      Have a great weekend Aditya and I’ll be sure to check out your blog.

      Tim

  • Dan Black

    This is a powerful statement: “All you need to do now is recognise the potential you have for change, choose your path, take a deep breath and act!” Every day desire is to help and add value to others through social media and my blog. I have been able to make a small impact. Great post!

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hey Dan

      That’s an admirable desire to have and one I also try to emulate. Great that you’re impacting on other people’s lives.

      I’m glad you liked the post and thank you for your kind comments.

      I hope you’re having a great week Dan!

      Tim

      • Dan Black

        It’s good to know we have the same desire and values to helping and adding value to others. Keep up the great work!

  • Samuel Jeffery

    Tim, this is a very inspirational post. I’ve been in a bit of productivity rut of late. What I plan on doing to make a positive/proactive change is to start outsourcing tasks I find time consuming and tedious while focusing more on the blogging aspects I thoroughly enjoy – writing, photography and making videos.

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Samuel

      Welcome to my blog. It’s great to see you here.

      It sounds like you have a solid plan in place. I’ve not outsourced any tasks myself as yet but it’s something I plan to do in the future.

      If it will help you focus on the things you like doing then it’s certainly sensible and will help productivity I’m sure.

      Thank you for your comments Samuel and I hope to see you again soon.

      Tim

  • chad L

    Man i dont even know what to say…. im floored by all the information you have on this site its been a great help, keep up the great work

  • http://www.ihelpc.com Karen Hoyt

    Tim –
    I’m glad you dusted this one off and tweeted it. My husband and I are working together on some plans for our acreage. We took the last couple of weekends and discussed what changes we would make, what steps it would require, and a timeline for implementing them.

    It is exciting when a couple work together on goals like how to take care of the children, or in our case – how to have fun on the farm. We drilled it all the way down to the qualities it would take for each of us to make it work. For example, it requires a lot of tenacity to keep up with an orchard that is quickly shedding pears! We have rolled up our sleeves and begun to work on picking up and sharing our harvest with friends and family.

    It may sound simple, but the hours involved have meant no movies or lounge time until our chores are done. We agreed to tackle it with joy.

    It sounds like your family is doing the same thing. Shifting time and jobs just to play with the kids is a positive move. I loved reading about how you and your wife came into agreement and are making it work.

    Thanks for the blog, and for creating a moments reflection during my twitter time.
    Karen:)

    • http://tim-bonner.com Tim Bonner

      Hi Karen

      Your plans sound really exciting and rewarding!

      Maintaining a farm is definitely hard work but the harvest with your friends and family is a wonderful gift.

      I grew up on a large farm estate which my parents still live on. My dad works for the estate still, although he plans to retire next year.

      My wife and I haven’t looked back since we decided the right thing to do was for me to give up work and look after the kids.

      My daughter’s now started to go to nursery (kindergarten) in the mornings which gives me a little more space and time to myself.

      You hit the nail on the head though Karen. We all need to make time for a little fun, otherwise what’s the point in doing what we do?

      I’m glad you enjoyed my post. I must write another more reflective post again soon!

      Have a great week.

      Tim