I’ve pondered this question for a while…
I don’t think it’s a question that has just one answer nor do I think there is a right or wrong answer. Obviously we’re all different, so what success means to me might be quite different to what it means for you or other people.
Rich and Powerful?
If you ask people what they think makes someone an achiever, I’m sure many of them would talk about a person who earns a lot of money. Money is after all what makes the world go round and often brings with it power and recognition. All of these things are what many people strive for.
With the credit crunch and recent austerity measures though, getting rich quick and having financial independence is probably further away for many people than it was a few years ago.
But does being rich necessarily make you happy? I don’t know but I think there are probably more stressed and miserable powerful rich people than there are happy poor people!
In my mind, you can’t define your accomplishments without taking into account how happy you are.
Happy and Successful?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying all rich people are miserable and that all poor people are blissfully happy as I know this isn’t the case. However, is there any point in being rich if you don’t enjoy what you do and aren’t happy?
Being unhappy and poor, I’m sure would spur many people to try to change their lives for the better but being miserable and rich, well, money can’t buy happiness.
What really inspired me to write this post was the decision my wife and I made at the end of 2011. That was for me to give up my career in pensions and concentrate on being a stay at home dad for the foreseeable future. This has opened up new opportunities for both me and my family.
Any free time I have from looking after the kids I spend on my blog, networking with other bloggers, trying to write an eBook and scaling up my affiliate marketing efforts. By being a stay at home dad, my kids in particular are benefiting from a much less stressful and more content home life. Hey, I do also get some free time too to have fun though!
The best part about it is that it allowed my wife the scope to go out and get a promotion at work. This in turn will hopefully allow us to live mortgage-free soon!
My greatest triumph so far is my family. Before I gave up my career, my wife and I juggled childcare with working long hours and our quality of life suffered. Now we are all much happier and with that I think more coherent as a family. There have been many milestones in my life but this is the most important to me.
Before I left work, I considered myself quite successful in my career but I wasn’t happy in my employment. I know hindsight is a wonderful thing but now when I think back because I wasn’t happy in my work my achievements were superficial.
There are different stresses and strains to being a stay at home dad compared to being in paid employment but the rewards outweigh any of these. There are still certain aspects of working in an office job which I miss but they can’t compare to the added value I am giving to my kids by staying at home whilst they grow up.
By being happy at home with the family, I think I have a greater chance of making things happen with my blog and internet marketing. Maybe even one day I will become rich and happy!
Success as I said at the start of this post is something different for every person. Your achievements can help you towards your goals in life and to measure how you are doing against these goals.
What Makes You A Success?
So, that leads me to two questions.
- What are your victories in life so far?
- What does success mean to you?
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